Flourishing Seeds Wellness

Ultimatums get a bad rap, and rightfully so.  They are often associated with power plays, toxic relationships, and emotional manipulation.  But what if an ultimatum isn’t always a threat?  What if sometimes, it’s a necessary line in the sand?   The truth is that ultimatums exist on a spectrum.  In some situations, they can be toxic and destructive.  In others, they are essential for preserving mental health and self-respect.    What is an Ultimatum?   In its simplest of forms

Positivity tells you to "just be happy." Optimism says, "It's okay to feel this - and I believe you will smile again." One avoids the dark. The other grows through it.

“Sometimes (perhaps even most of the time), the most healing thing we can offer is not advice, but space, presence, and genuine concern” 

As a Mental Health Counsellor, I have the privilege of walking along side many different clients, from many different walks of life, who are battling to work through all sorts of challenges.  One group that has really pulled on my heartstrings is the male population.  Why, you might ask?  Well, the answer is quite simple - because of the stigma and unhealthy expectations that have been put on men for centuries that have stopped them from seeking much needed and well-deserved

“Just push through it”, “Resting is a sign of laziness”, “Rest is for the weak”, “If you have that kind of free time, you’re obviously not being productive enough”.  Do any of these sound familiar?    In a world obsessed with productivity and earnings, burnout has become the quiet epidemic that few want to talk about or own up to, but almost everyone experiences at some point or another.  It hides behind phrases like “I’m just tired”, or “Things are just hectic right now.”  B

After discussing boundaries on my social media last week, I realized this topic deserves a comprehensive blog post. There are many misconceptions about what boundaries are and whether they help or hinder us. The perspective often shifts depending on which side of the boundary you find yourself on. What Are Boundaries? Boundaries are limits or guidelines that help us understand what is acceptable in terms of behaviors, relationships, and personal space. They apply to both ours

A distorted thought is a thought that is not a true reflection of what is, but a thought that comes through our own internal mental filters and presents in an inaccurate or exaggerated way.  These distorted thoughts often come from our past experiences, learned biases, and ways we have had to cope during stressful times, and when left unchecked can create negative thinking patterns.  Although these thoughts can show up as positive distorted thoughts as well, majority of our d

“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment”.           – Ralph Waldo Emerson   Have you ever stopped to think about what it means to live authentically, or even gone one step further to truly contemplate how much of the way you live your life is authentic to yourself?   Although the concept of living authentically may be somewhat straight forward, living in authenticity can be trickier than one might think. 

I saw a post on Facebook the other day that has not left my mind.  It said:     “I saw a post I didn’t agree with.  I didn’t get offended.  I didn’t comment.  I didn’t feel the need to change their mind.  I still like the person.  I just kept scrolling and went on with my day.  More should practice this.”.   Why is it that there seems to be such a strong urge for people to shame others for opinions, thoughts, and feelings that are different than their own?   Of course, when w

What if you could harness the negative energy that might be wasted on those reactions and use it for solution-based thinking instead?

Have you ever noticed how quickly we try and push away the feelings we don’t like, or the lengths to which we will go to avoid sitting with

When we use empathy, we can disagree with someone or something, without needing to take them out at their knees.

It is through vulnerability that we grow.